Make Me Smile Monday

Today is my sister A's birthday. She's 7 years younger than me and we have no other siblings in between us to bridge the gap, but it's never really been necessary. She may not realize it (though I hope she does), but I've always been filled with an incredible (sometimes fiercely protective) love for my sister.

I remember the night my mom went into labour, waking up in the middle of the night my teeth chattering and knees knocking from the cold (we're talking Northern Ontario in March) as I climbed into the car to be taken to my grandparents house. I remember hearing that there had been some complications with her delivery and birth and that both mom and A had been through a rough time. I also remember my dad (typically a man of few words) carefully explaining to me and my brother what she had been through, that we might notice she had bloodshot eyes but that her eyes would get better (as would she) and everything would be ok. I remember the relief of knowing she would be ok and the joy of meeting her for the first time.

My sister has always been a very strong, independent person. Growing up she was often mistaken for being older than she really was (partly because she was tall and partly I think because she had two much older siblings) and seemed to fall into that role quite easily. She was always very responsible as a child and I think she felt older than she really was (much like a firstborn child tends to). She's always had a drive to do things on her own and has incredible back bone and determination.

She has also always been a very loving and tender hearted person. She's not quite as demonstrative as I am (I'm not very good at hiding what I'm feeling or thinking), but she feels very deeply. Some people you get to know very quickly because they "let it all hang out", but A's someone you're wise to take the time to really get to know. If you're patient you'll discover great depth and compassion there.

The wonderful thing about these two beautiful qualities of hers is how she's learning to use them as a new mom. I've watched her grow since the time I first heard she was pregnant and I know I will continue to see her grow. Making choices with the good of her children (baby number 2 is now on his or her way) and herself in mind caring for them with love and compassion and sticking to what she knows is best for them with that amazing determination of hers.

A, since I know you'll be reading this, what I'm trying to say, what I hope you know (not only today but everyday) is that I think you are so incredibly amazing and I love you so very much! You are so very important to me, Jason and our children and we are always here for you! Whenever you feel like you need a break we're here to help you find one!

You are irreplacable. No one else could ever play the role you do in our lives. You are one of the most important people in my life and you are one of my dearest friends. Happy Birthday!